Even when you have a hundred honest man and woman in a room,

But when that room is also full with ego,

You cannot get things done.

UGH!

“I love mankind, it’s the people I can’t stand.” -Gill Grissom

It was night time, I just got out from a tiring day at work, the South China Sea was blowing its salty wind on my face, there was plenty of seafood on the table and the smell of Monte Cristo cigar was creating a sultry blend with the surrounding. It was relaxing…

That night we met my boss’s friend from Lebanon who just moved to Johor, Basil. He started talking about his previous working experiences and in our conversation, he brought up a topic which conveniently hit a note at that moment.

He asked me,in life, if given the choice of winning the battle and winning the war, which would you choose?

Basil told us the story about one of his boss who made his life hell at work. They would argue and being someone who is passionate about his beliefs, he fought to win every argument had. They sorta developed mutual hatred towards each other since.

It was only after a few years after that Basil realized what a huge mistake it was. He missed out on the knowledge and the mentor-ship of a very intelligent man who could have nurtured his mind in so many ways.

I learned a couple of things from Basil that night;

To win the war, we have to lose a few battles. To win the war, we have to put our emotions at bay and make best friends with our logic.
To win the war, we have to see every moment; bad or good, an opportunity.

some truth in life we just gotta accept…

Mine has got to be Hannibal and the part where he cooks a man’s brains in front of him while he’s still alive.

Way to go Dr Lecter…

Someone posted this image on Digg.com yesterday. The title of the image was Your Childhood : Let Me Ruin It.

I just thought it was bleedin’ twisted.

No puns intended.

T’was a good year, t’was a bad year. But mostly t’was more of a good year, I should say.

I quit my old job, went jobless for four months, got a new job, moved to Johor Bharu, rented my first apartment, went out on my first date in ages, had more massages compared to last year, learned to cook dumplings, went to Bandung, Jakarta and Dubai, made new friends, hooked up with old ones, read a couple of books (Tuesdays with Morrie, Who Will Cry When You Die, Ps I Love You-to name a few),tried multi level marketing and most importantly, I moved on.

Letting go of a relationship was quite a hard thing to do. Somehow it involved friends, families and choosing sides-not a pretty thing, to be honest. Letting go of one’s hatred, even harder. I have to admit that I wasn’t proud of who I was back then.

There are times when I’ve considered myself a failure, for not trying hard enough. For not caring deep enough. But I’ve realized that those. are the feelings I considered my guiding stars, the people I’ve encountered was my stepping stone, the lessons they taught me will prep me on this road. I might think I’ve failed back then but I definitely would want to try and give it a shot to success somewhere in the future.

I did not quite make any New Year’s resolution for myself; I am however on my journey to reach my 5 year goal (currently in my 2nd). Few thing’s for sure, I’m going to be a better daughter, be a good person, a team player and date a hot chick :p

Happy New Year everyone!

Page 142\Chapter 71\Stop Condemning

‘Rather than looking for things to criticize in those around you, why not begin to respect the differences? Often, we perceive in others the weaknesses we most need to address within ourselves. Stop blaming and condemning. Accept complete responsibility for the way things are, and resolve to work on changing yourself before seeking to change others. This is one of the truest of a person of strong character.’

As Erica Jong said, “Take your life into your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”

Am currently reading Who Will Cry When You Die by Robin Sharma. Thought of sharing a couple of passages through Cyberspace as I jump through it in hopes that it helps someone, somehow…

Pg 184\Chapter 95\Be An Adventurer

The more routine our lives become, the greater our need to fill them with some real adventures. The more obligations that beg for our attention, the more important it becomes to shed those shackles of complacency and send our hearts soaring through some brave new pursuit.

“Man must not allow the clock and the calendar to blind him to the fact that each moment of his life is a miracle and mystery,” wrote British novelist, HG Wells.

To connect more deeply to the miracles and the mysteries of your own life, vow to restore the spirit of adventure that you once knew as a child. Make a list of 12 pursuits you know would bring a greater sense of passion and energy to your normally mundane routine, and tackle one of them every month for the next year. Doing so is a highly effective way to reinvent the way you live.

Love, Reena

Forgive me father for I have sinned. It has been aeons since my last blog-fession. Things have been pretty hectic for me, and I love it. I guess there’s just something in chaos that’s just so sexy. >:)

Anyways, the wait is finally over for me. I’m FINALLY moving out to Danga Bay,Johor, leading a new life. Things will always change. You cannot have what you want if you are content to remain what you are. So, in a way, nothing should stay the same.

But I’ll still be that friend you can turn to, the friend who listens when you have something to say, that someone who will always tell you that you are limitless, that maniac who will tell you to take that risk, then tell you not to regret it. I’ll still be your sister who will definitely come back during the weekends… Maybe not every. Hihihi. Location’s a mere challenge.

At times like these, I really hope that the saying “absence makes the heart grows fonder” is true.

Your heart, hopefully. Mine will certainly.  

By the way, I’m close to getting that house by the sea I’ve always wanted. I’m just starting with an office by the sea first. Hehe. *What you believe, you can achieve Occay Izar?

Hehe.

And everyone else too!

Cilok-d this from Robinsharma.com

Every word creates a consequence (whether you realize it or not).

Do you speak like a victim? Is your daily language the Language of Blame.Do you suffer from the dreaded disease of victimitis excusitis?

Or do you speak like a Leader Without Title? Whose words inspire and energize and help people move from where they now are to where they’ve always dreamed of being?

Take your pick. Your choices design your character. (Something I’ve always believed in!)